Sometimes it seems like we are “thrown” into situations that we believe are not of our own creation and we find ourselves wondering “Why?” There is a reason for that. One that goes far deeper than just the concept that there is something there for us to learn. Don’t get me wrong. It is ultimately about learning something, but sometimes it’s also about experiencing something on a much deeper level. I suppose it depends on how significant the lesson is that we are meant to learn. But there are often cases in which looking objectively at a situation simply won’t allow us to take away what we need to from a given situation.

Sometimes we actually have to allow ourselves to do exactly what we don’t want to do – go deep within and feel it for everything its worth. While this might not be exactly what you had in mind since you are trying to get AWAY from a situation and create a new set of circumstances, the problem is that you can’t really move on until you fully understand why the situation is occurring in the first place. And what better way to do that than to dive right in?

This might sound rather counterintuitive, but according to whose rules? According to what definition? When it comes down to it, we all make up our own rules for this lifetime, whether we like to believe it or not or we choose to follow the outline that someone els has created for us. And since we have created our lives, we can also do exactly as we please with them.

The important thing is that we find a way to become fully aware of exactly what we are experiencing and why. But we so often don’t do that. We will find every distraction out there known to man to keep ourselves from fully experiencing the reality of things – from eating to watching television to talking on the phone. In fact, the issues that we run from the most are exactly the issues that we need to go deepest into. Case in point – I am having difficulty finishing this article because my mind keeps wandering and I have already gotten up twice from my chair to make a phone call and get something to drink! Pretty ridiculous for a 500-word article, isn’t it?

What I have come to realize is that we are all so afraid of feeling the depths of something, whether it is good or bad, because we think it may seal us into the experience like a box, when in fact, going directly into it is precisely what frees us. There is never anything wrong with feeling. We are feeling human beings. That’s what we do best, and to deny that is to deny our very human nature.

And as human beings, we must allow ourselves to fully experience all that our lives have to offer, whether that be for better or for worst. By not allowing that for ourselves, we are only short-changing ourselves. We may miss out on the true beauty that lies within or on the other side of what now appears to be a problem if we manage to work our way through it. In reality, it’s really a blessing in disguise, even if we don’t see it at the time. It is far better to try searching for the blessing rather than just “seeing” the problem.

But the only way to find the good in the situation is to allow ourselves to fully explore it. Once we finally allow ourselves to do that – and it may not be a quick process, but well worth the journey, I assure you – and we get through it, we will never have to deal with it again in the same manner as such a painful experience. This is when you can fully let it go, and your life truly begins to change for the better.